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REVEALED: Untold Stories of Sexually Abused Male Children Betrayed by Family Members

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Abuse in all its forms are a daily reality for many Nigerian children and only a fraction ever receive help. Six out of every 10 children experience some form of violence. About 10 per cent of boys have been victims of sexual violence. Of the children who reported violence, fewer than five out of a 100 received any form of support.

Male children being abused are stories under reported , especially in Africa .The reason for this story is to draw the attention of the general public towards paying more attention to the male child as the stereotype created in Africa especially, places the male on a high pedestal which makes them feel they should be superheroes and never be vulnerable.

Section 277 of the Nigerian Child Rights Act, 2003 defines a child as a person who has not attained the age of eighteen years. According to Wikipedia, Child abuse is physical, sexual, and psychological neglect of a child or children, especially by a parent or caregiver. Child abuse may include any act or failure to act by a parent or caregiver that results in actual or potential harm to a child and can occur in a child’s home, or in the organization, schools, or communities the child interacts with.

Child molestation/Child sexual abuse as a form of child abuse where an adult or an older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation. Forms of child sexual abuse include engaging in sexual activities with a child (whether by asking or pressuring or by any other means), indecent exposure (of the genitals, female nipple, etc.), child grooming, and child sexual exploitation, including using a child to produce child pornography.

Coming from a polygamous family, Collins had to share almost everything with a sibling or two including bed space . At age 5 his predicament started when his step sister with whom he shared bed space started touch to him at night . He recalled ” when I sleep at night , I feel hands on my genitals , when I wake up and ask her why she keeps touching me , she says I do not wash my private part well when bathing and she is trying to confirm” . He did not feel comfortable with the new development of “checking his genitals to confirm if he bathed”.

“She kept on with it and even told our dad I do not bathe well and that I smell, then she asked to bathe me and my dad agreed to it. When she bathed me, she concentrated on my genital. I did not want to think much about it and it became normal till age 7 when my mum asked her to stop bathing me”. The abuser usually tries to make the child feel comfortable with them so they could continue the abuse for as long as possible.

“She later travelled to learn tailoring at my aunts place at Ibadan, but she returned after two years , I was 10 or so, she touched me that night she came and said, I have grown ooh, she asked if I bathe well now all these while touching my genital, it went on as usual. When I was 13 , when we were having a conversation , she said something ,she said now as big as I am , do I not know I can satisfy a woman in bed and I am behaving like a child, this caught my attention.”

He went further “I never knew it was abuse till I heard of a similar situation at school when I was 13, I also remember when she touched me and touched herself at the same till I heard her say she was wet, I also noticed my penis was standing ,Ii knew I had to stop it and threatened to report and she manipulated me to thinking I would be blamed so I kept shut, I am not seeking justice or anything , I feel I also encouraged it by not speaking up. I only want the world to know that the male gender is also at risk of abuse and for parents to listen and pay more attention to not just the female child alone”.

Abuja City Journal reached out to five different boys who have gone through same or similar situation but only one responded , this is a clear proof that many abused boys fear or do not see the need to speak out as they feel justice wont be served.
From an anonymous victim, he said “why will I tell my story , does it not sound funny to you ? I feel it’s normal , I am a man I can’t go round telling my story. I am not a cry baby.”

Collins today is an Electrical Engineer, when asked how the abuse affected him, he said “I developed high libido , and ended up always touching myself, I started having penetrative sex as early as 14 , it continued for several years , till I got infected with an STI . I did not have any sexual knowledge or orientation , I just knew that when I felt some type of way, I had to satisfy myself. I was able to get help from a teacher of mine who noticed my behaviour , he helped me , educated me , even prayed with me . Today I am an established Electrical Engineer, I have self control and God is blessing me ”

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Democracy Day: Foundation to engage youths through 21km marathon

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Apo Progressive Foundation (APF), a non-governmental organisation has concluded arrangements to host the second edition of its 21-kilometer “Peace and Unity” Marathon Race on June 12.

Mr Faleye Adebowale, Chairman of the foundation, disclosed this during a press briefing in Abuja on Tuesday.

The event, scheduled to coincide with the 2026 Democracy Day celebrations, is aimed at promoting grassroots sports, engaging talented youths, and supporting security agencies in the fight against insecurity.

Adebowale stated that the theme of this year’s edition, “Let’s Defeat Insecurity,” was deliberately chosen to encourage citizens to partner with security agencies through actionable intelligence and community solidarity.

”Sports is a powerful unifying factor that transcends religious, tribal, and regional differences. By bringing youths from diverse backgrounds together, we are creating an avenue for unity.

”Through this interaction, we can advocate for peace and encourage our people to support security agencies with necessary information to battle crime in our communities,” he said.

He said the event was open to both male and female runners nationwide, with participants expected from states such as Plateau, Kwara, Kaduna, Niger, and Lagos.

Adebowale explained that it replicated the cross-country attendance recorded during the maiden edition.

According to the chairman, the race will strictly feature adult runners from the age of 18.

He outlined the designated 21km route to include the take-off point at the Apo Community Stadium, through NEPA Junction to Games Village Roundabout, connecting Galadima Roundabout down to Kabusa Junction, and terminating at the Apo Community Stadium.

Adebowale, however, lamented the lack of corporate sponsorship for the event, revealing that the cash prizes and logistics were being funded through the collective personal resources of the foundation’s members.

”We do not have any sponsors for now. Everything you see, including the advertisements and the cash prizes for the athletes, is from individual contributions of our members.

”We are heavily open to sponsorship and partnership from well-meaning Nigerians and corporate bodies because this project benefits the entire Federal Capital Territory (FCT) and the nation,” he added.

Also speaking, the Secretary of the foundation, Mr Victor Chollom, stated that APF had officially written to various security agencies, to provide lectures and security tips for the participants.

These, he said, included the Nigeria Police Force, the Department of State Services (DSS), the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC), and the Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC),

Chollom linked the prevailing economic hardship in the country to rural insecurity, which he said had prevented farmers from accessing their farmlands.

”Part of the reason there is economic hardship is that insecurity in rural areas won’t allow parents to go to the farm, leading to food scarcity in the markets.

”We are using this platform to advocate for the government to hasten interventions like the forest guards so farmers can safely return to their farmlands.

“We are also catching these young ones early through sports and educational scholarships to ensure they grow with a mindset of peace,” Chollom said.

On his part, the Foundation’s Public Relations Officer, Mr Husain Yahaya, expressed worry over the high number of unengaged, talented youths roaming the streets.

He said that the marathon was designed to take them off the streets and expose them to global sports opportunities.

Yahaya said the foundation had embarked on aggressive roadshows, radio announcements, and school visitations to ensure grassroots athletes without regular platforms are given an opportunity to showcase their skills.

Cash prizes will be awarded to winners in both the male and female categories.

The first position winners will smile home with N350,000 each, while the second, third, fourth, and fifth-position runners will receive N250,000, N200,000, N150,000, and N100,000 respectively.(NAN)

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NNPP Disowns Planned Protest Against INEC

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By Omoniyi David

The New Nigeria Peoples Party (NNPP) has disowned a planned protest against the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) scheduled for Tuesday, January 20, 2026, in Abuja and other parts of the country.

In a statement issued Monday from its National Secretariat in Abuja, the party said reports linking it to the proposed protest were false, describing the planned demonstration as illegal.

The statement, signed by the NNPP National Publicity Secretary, Ladipo Johnson, said the organisers of the protest were impostors and not members of the party.

The NNPP cited a Federal High Court judgment delivered on April 18, 2024, in Suit No. FHC/ABJ/CS/1354/2024, in which Justice Emeka Nwite upheld the expulsion of the individuals involved.

The party urged the public and security agencies to disregard any attempt to associate it with the protest, reaffirming its commitment to lawful and democratic engagement.

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2025 Awards Night: ACCI Spotlights Business Excellence, International Collaboration

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By Ade Iyamoye 

The Abuja Chamber of Commerce and Industry (ACCI), on Tuesday celebrated outstanding contributions to enterprise development and international cooperation at its 2025 Awards and Dinner Night, with a renewed commitment to building a resilient, globally competitive business community.

Speaking at the event held at the Prince Adetokunbo Kayode SAN Trade and Convention Centre, ACCI President, Chief Emeka Obegolu, SAN, PhD, said the awards night was a moment of appreciation for businesses and individuals whose innovation, perseverance and investments continue to drive Nigeria’s economy.

Obegolu said the Chamber had made “meaningful progress” over the past year in line with its vision to strengthen infrastructure, facilitate trade, build capacity, professionalise the Secretariat, expand global partnerships and reposition the ACCI brand.

He highlighted the ACCI Business, Entrepreneurship, Skills and Training (BEST), Centre as a key intervention aimed at skills development and entrepreneurship, preparing members and young Nigerians to compete locally and globally.

According to him, ongoing projects around the Chamber are designed to create a sustainable commercial ecosystem and long-term value for members.

The ACCI president also underscored the importance of engagement with government institutions, development partners and the diplomatic community, noting that such collaborations have enhanced the Chamber’s credibility and positioned it as a vital platform for dialogue.

“The presence of ambassadors and members of the diplomatic corps here tonight underscores the growing international interest in Abuja as a business destination,” Obegolu said, adding that business, beyond profits and policies, is ultimately about people.

He reaffirmed ACCI’s commitment to delivering value to members, growing its membership base and attracting investment that will contribute to Nigeria’s economic growth and global competitiveness.

On his part, the Brazil’s Ambassador to Nigeria, Carlos Garcete, commended ACCI for its role in deepening bilateral trade and cultural relations between Brazil and Nigeria, describing 2025 as a “remarkable year” for relations between both countries.

Garcete cited multiple high-level exchanges, including visits by President Bola Tinubu to Brazil for the G20, BRICS and a state visit, reciprocal visits by ministers and vice presidents of both countries, and Nigeria’s participation in COP30.

He particularly praised ACCI’s instrumental role in the Brazilian trade mission led by ApexBrasil, which brought over 40 Brazilian companies and more than 60 business leaders to Nigeria, the largest standalone Brazilian business delegation to the country.

Receiving the ACCI Award for Promotion of Cultural and Economic Exchange on behalf of the Brazilian Government, Garcete described the honour as both recognition and a call to sustain strong cooperation, expressing optimism for deeper collaboration in 2026.

The event brought together captains of industry, diplomats, partners and stakeholders for networking and celebration, reinforcing ACCI’s role as a bridge between Nigerian enterprise and the global business community.

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