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From ‘Meeting’ to ‘Money for Hand, Back for Ground’: Evolving World of Hookup Culture in Abuja

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By Olalekan Adigun and Pwaveno Jerryman

The term “hookup,” once simply meaning “to meet,” has undergone a significant transformation in Nigeria, now encompassing various sexual activities and relationships. This contemporary definition ranges from sex without dating to no-strings-attached encounters, adopting names such as “friends with benefits,” “casual sex,” “booty call,” “recreational sex,” and “no strings attached.” Hookups can take place both online and offline, with online instances often involving the exchange of explicit photos and sexual videos. Offline encounters involve physical meetings for sexual activities, often with an agreed financial transaction, leading to the popular phrase “money for hand, back for ground.”

One prevalent colloquial term for these encounters in Yoruba culture is “Olosho.” It’s often characterized as a lucrative endeavor for those not seeking committed relationships, earning it the phrase “a serious business for unserious people.”

The link between individuals involved in hookup culture, often referred to as “hookup girls,” and internet fraudsters, known as “Yahoo boys,” is undeniable. These groups frequently patronize the same venues, including hotels, clubs, lounges, parties, and even public streets. The Nigerian government has made numerous attempts to combat both internet fraud and sex work, but the efforts have yet to yield a significant reduction in these activities. The issue is complex, requiring multifaceted strategies as many youths choose these activities over traditional employment opportunities. This preference is driven by the allure of quick financial gain; for example, a boy who can make a million naira through internet fraud may be hesitant to accept a job paying just 50,000 naira per month.

Abuja City Journal observed that in the Federal Capital Territory, “hook up” has become not only a vocation but full time occupation for many ladies between 18 and 25. Our reporter spoke to one of them who says she stays at Nyanya but regularly goes to Wuse “to work”. When pressed to disclose the nature of her work, she confessed it is “hook up”.

According to this lady who told our reporter her name is Angela, “I use to work at the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) as an Admin Officer. I had to resign because the salary was nothing to write home about.”

Another lady who identifies herself as Queen narrated her story to our reporter at popular 046 Bar at Mararaba area. She said, “I use to work at a sales girl at Shawarma spot. One day, one of the customers at the bar approached me. He says he likes me and will want to spend the night with me. He gave me N15,000 for the night. This is my entire salary for the month as a sales girl.”

She said further, “I can’t do any other job except I’m well paid. Do you know how much I’ve been able to touch since I started hook up?”

Our reporters at Abuja City Journal said some “hook up” girls make up to N50,000 in a single night. This is more than the minimum wage of some salary earners in Abuja. Queen said, “Curbing these activities will demand serios miracle.”

Twitter surveys, monitored  by Abuja City Journal, indicate that roughly half of hookups among adolescents are one-time affairs, while others involve specific patrons. Surveys also highlight that many individuals participating in hookups are already in relationships, while others adhere to a strict no-strings-attached policy, focusing solely on their financial gain.

Apart from financial motives and promiscuity, another driving factor behind hookup culture is the pursuit of relevance. Some individuals seek to be in the company of influential people and flaunt the latest designer fashion. The notion of being wanted by an influential person holds immense significance for them. Some engage in hookups under the influence of alcohol and other substances. As described by an anonymous lady, she first participated in a one-night stand under the influence of alcohol and drugs, which led to subsequent encounters while inebriated, as she couldn’t engage in such activities in her right state of mind.

Yahoo boys are not the sole patrons of these encounters; politicians, sex-craving men, individuals with low self-esteem, people with psychological challenges, and lonely individuals are also frequent participants in hookup culture, often through dating sites. One of the most popular platforms for such meetings is Tinder, where people from different locations come together for various encounters.

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Atoyebi Adewumi Wins 4th National Essay Competition, Beats 2,000 Contestants

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By Samson Adeyanju

Atoyebi Adewumi has emerged winner of the fourth edition of the National Essay Competition, beating more than 2,000 contestants in an intellectual contest aimed at promoting academic excellence, critical thinking and creative writing among young Nigerians.

The competition, which focused on the relevance of taxation to national development, challenged participants to examine the role of tax revenue in financing public services, stimulating economic growth and strengthening the relationship between government and citizens.

The initiative provided a platform for young Nigerians to demonstrate their writing skills, articulate informed perspectives on national issues and contribute ideas towards building a more responsible and progressive society.

Speaking after being declared winner, an elated Adewumi expressed gratitude to the convener, Foluso Sylvanus Ojo, and the organising team for providing young Nigerians with an opportunity to showcase their intellectual abilities.

“I am so glad, very, very glad, to have this privilege of emerging as the winner. I am grateful to the convener and the entire team, as well as everyone who supported this vision,” Adewumi said.

In his remarks, Ojo expressed concern over the tendency to criticise the attitudes and lifestyles of younger generations without providing adequate opportunities to nurture their talents and channel their energies towards productive pursuits.

He called on the government, corporate organisations and nongovernmental organisations to invest more in educational initiatives that promote intellectual excellence, creativity and responsible citizenship.

According to him, sustained investment in academic competitions and youth development programmes would encourage discipline, innovation and a stronger commitment to national development.

Drawing a comparison with the substantial cash prizes awarded in some reality television competitions in Nigeria, Ojo argued that students and intellectually gifted young Nigerians deserved greater recognition, financial support and encouragement.

“I believe the government should support initiatives like this because individuals need supportive hands, especially from the government. When they receive such support, they become more confident and motivated to continue their good work,” he said.

Ojo maintained that society could not continue to complain about the attitudes and lifestyles of young people without deliberately investing in programmes that encourage positive values and productive engagement.

The fourth edition of the competition also underscored the importance of tax awareness among young Nigerians, highlighting how effective taxation, transparency and accountable governance could contribute to improved infrastructure, education, healthcare and other essential public services.

Beyond celebrating the winner, the competition reinforced the need to identify, encourage and empower emerging intellectual talents capable of contributing meaningfully to Nigeria’s development.

Winner of the 5,000,000 naira

Winner of 3,000,000 naira

Winner of 2,000,000

All the participants 

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20 Finalists Begin Final Stage of National Essay Competition

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Twenty finalists from across Nigeria have begun the final stage of the fourth edition of the National Essay Competition in Abuja, following an orientation session designed to prepare them for the decisive examination.

The finalists arrived in the Federal Capital Territory for a four-day, all-expenses-paid programme featuring the essay examination, institutional tours and opportunities for learning and networking.

The competition, the brainchild of Mr Foluso Ojo, is sponsored by the Nigeria Revenue Service (NRS).

Ahead of the examination, the finalists participated in an orientation session led by Professor Omotosho Borisade of Ekiti State University, who serves as the competition’s umpire.

The session familiarised participants with the competition’s rules and regulations, examination guidelines and assessment criteria, helping them understand the requirements of the final stage.

The essay examination is scheduled to begin today at 9 a.m., after which the finalists are expected to embark on institutional tours around Abuja.

The programme is designed to extend beyond the contest itself, exposing the finalists to new learning opportunities, professional connections and experiences in the nation’s capital.

The competition brings together young Nigerians to demonstrate their writing ability, knowledge, creativity and critical-thinking skills as they compete for the top honours.

With the finalists prepared for the examination, attention now turns to their performance and the eventual emergence of the competition’s champion.

 

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Pastor Ogundipe Decries Lack of Integrity Among Educated Nigerians

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Pastor Alex Ogundipe, Chairman of the Governing Board of Christian Heritage International Bible College, Kubwa, Abuja, has expressed concern over the growing number of educated Nigerians who lack the character and integrity required to make meaningful contributions to society.

Ogundipe raised the concern during the matriculation ceremony of the institution’s 60 pioneer students, stressing that academic qualifications without moral discipline and upright character could undermine national development.

According to him, Nigeria has many knowledgeable and academically accomplished individuals whose inability to demonstrate integrity has negatively affected their contributions to their families, workplaces and communities.

“We have too many people in this country who are knowledgeable and wise in their own ways, but they do not have character and integrity. That affects their ability to impact their communities,” he said.

The cleric emphasised that education must go beyond the acquisition of certificates to the development of individuals who demonstrate honesty, accountability, faithfulness and commitment to serving humanity.

He explained that true integrity required consistency in personal conduct, whether at home, in the church, at work or within the larger society.

Ogundipe said the college was established not merely to impart biblical knowledge but to raise men and women whose lifestyles reflect Christian values and whose contributions would positively influence society.

He urged Christian leaders to demonstrate their faith through practical actions rather than mere religious declarations.

Speaking on Nigeria’s future, the cleric encouraged citizens to remain hopeful, pray for the country and contribute meaningfully to national peace, unity and development.

Earlier, the Rector of the institution, Pastor Samson Olukayode Aliyu, challenged the matriculating students to prioritise spiritual maturity and moral discipline alongside academic excellence.

Aliyu warned against examination malpractice, plagiarism, dishonesty and other forms of misconduct, stressing that academic certificates could demonstrate knowledge but could not substitute for good character.

“The Church does not only need gifted people; it needs godly people. We need leaders who will choose integrity over compromise, humility over pride, faithfulness over convenience and service over self-interest,” he declared.

He explained that the college offers six-month certificate programmes in theology and one-year diploma programmes in theology, leadership and prophetic studies.

One of the matriculating students, Akeem Omobolanle, who enrolled in the Diploma in Leadership programme, commended the institution’s approach to biblical education and expressed optimism that the training would strengthen his understanding of the Scriptures and prepare him for greater service in Christian ministry.

The ceremony marked the formal admission of the college’s pioneer students into its academic community.

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