Peer pressure, cyberbullying, academic expectations, social media pressure. These are a few of the challenges children face today.
Resilience is the one skill that your child should have before life situations get out of kilter.
Your child's emotional and psychological health takes a hit when life happens. Teaching resilience will help prepare your child to better manage situations, confront uncertainties, and bounce back from adversities.
Resilience is the psychological strength to deal with stress, setbacks, crises and hardships. When children are resilient they cope better during and after difficult situations.
As a parent, your role in resilience building cannot be overemphasized. Show resilience in your daily conduct. Use everyday situations to teach resilience as you prepare your child for life as an adult.
You can't and shouldn't try to stop your child from experiencing problems. Some problems will help him apply skills he's picked up over the years, making him stronger and better. Encourage your child to take action, rather than to let the issue he is struggling with put him down.
When your child is resilient they adapt to change easier and feel in control of their life.
Resilient children bounce back better after hardship or illness. They are optimistic and do not give up. They see humour even in stressful situations and are self-confident.
Resilient children see failure as an event that gives them helpful feedback. They have clear, logical thinking, and have good leadership qualities.
To help your child build resilience, you will need to be intentional and attentive.
Peers tease and ridicule each other. Most times without thinking of the impact their words and action have on the receiver. It is important to make sure that your child is in a supportive and positive community. In school, at the park, etc. your child should feel welcomed and received without judgement.
Help your child identify their triggers. What makes them happy, sad, or angry? Teach them to keep things in perspective by focusing on the facts and reality. Always looking out for the positive or funny side of a difficult situation is a good strategy to teach them too.
Teach them to respect themselves and to show care, respect and concern for others.
A resilient child will most likely be a resilient adult who can thrive and can lead others to thrive too. By being attentive and intentional as a parent today, you can raise a child you will be proud of tomorrow.