Women Endure Unspeakable Things -Ex-BBNaija Khafi
By Morenike Bailey
Reality TV star, Khafi Ekpata, on Wednesday, lamented the plight of a woman as she revealed that women go through unspeakable challenges in silence.
She had decided to partake in the challenge (NobodyLikeWoman) pioneered by Nigerian singer, Simi, where women share derogatory comments that they have received in the past.
Khafi revealed in a post promoting the challenge that many have accused that she has not revealed her newborn's face because the baby is just as ugly as the mother.
‘Her baby must be ugly that’s why she’s not showing his face,’ Khafi posted.
However, it seems a lot of her fans doubted her claims as she also proceeded to show a screenshot of the critic comment she got about her baby. “But why are you hiding your baby’s face? Is he ugly too?” the critic questioned.
She also captioned the post; “For everyone who said I was lying or making up my previous post. Women endure many unspeakable things and most times do so in silence. When they do share they get hit with labels like “attention seeker, liar” etc.
“We are so programmed to internalise hurt that when it is shared the hearer is more offended by the sharing than what actually happened.
“Regardless, I normally block and delete comments like this and keep it moving. But I’m guessing that is why @symplysimi started this challenge because we shouldn’t have to. And if you feel offended by others sharing their truth, ask yourself why.”
Referring to the troll, Khafi prayed that such derogatory comment would not be used on her as well. She said, “For Sharron who felt the need to say this, I pray no one says such about your children, born or unborn.
“My son is beautiful just like his Daddy and I hope my husband and I are able to raise our child in a way that he is so fortified in who he is in God; that means things like this don’t affect him, but not everyone is that fortunate.
“Wouldn’t it be easier if we were just nicer to each other? Every word shapes us, so I hope you’ll pick yours better in the future.”
In August, Khafi welcomed her first son with her husband, Gedoni Akpata, who was a fellow ex-housemate from BBNaija Pepper Dem edition.