MISTAKES MEN LOOK OUT FOR IN LADIES WHILE ON A DATE.
BY OMOBOYOWA TOLULOPE
Nobody is perfect but there are common mistakes we ladies make that puts men off while on a date and this assertion was proven on the street of twitter where different people came out to state their reasons why they couldn’t move pass the first date. Mistakes are common error that looks normal to us but completely the opposite to someone else’s. This write up is meant to guide us from committing further mistakes and also correcting the ones that might make us unhappy when pointed out especially by the opposite gender.
This conversation sprung up on twitter and many people shared their experience on the platform of how their meeting went with some ladies and how they withdrew after the first meeting. Here are some of the reply the tweet generated.
Tweet by @tejumania “The pettiest reason you refused to date someone?”
“Instead of using tooth pick, she was doing mxci mxcii mxciii” @Sonjoe_Kutuh
“She polluted on our first outing… when confronted she said I’ll soon get used to her” @samkinzify
“On our first date, some kids were chasing themselves. One of them ran and hid behind her chair. She turned around, gave him a heavy knock, then continued eating. Omo me and the pikin shock!” @TheMubs_
“She kept calling me fool, idiot and stupid on the first date. Her defense is that she felt comfortable with me. It wasn’t mutual” @bobwilmadeit
“she thought sarcasm was an insult and a language of the devil” @29lucidthoughts
“She wore a nose ring and leg chain and was really rude to the lady serving us at the restaurant.” @Ukeh8
“Asked for financial assistance in less than 48hrs after we met, we met through a mutual friend, at least have some shame” @ dejimole
These tweets shows that there are many mistakes that can be consciously avoided. No matter what stage in the relationship you are, most of the issues women are having are rooted in the same mistakes.
GENERAL MISTAKES TO AVOID
Don’t be insecure when your date takes a turns to check out another lady. It’s bad for him to do so but it’s his loss because you are more than enough. As a lady, if you find yourself getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it, there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need to build up your self-esteem. There are times we just want to keep to ourselves, that’s not a time to pester. If he’s in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most guys don’t like to talk about their issues the way women do. Instead, they prefer to pull back and work things out internally.
Don’t stop taking care of yourself. It really is a shame to see how many women think it’s okay to stop working out and shaving their legs as soon as they’re in a relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to make the effort once things are more settled to keep the attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.
This is not the time to lose your longtime friends. Don’t be one of those girls who forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a man, it never ends well and makes you look needy. Men are much more straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing’s wrong and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you further, you’ll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.
No guy is perfect; no man is capable of giving you every single thing you need. There will be times when you’re not happy with something he’s doing. If this happen, do not nag him over it.